The first three steps in this series helped you process your grief, frustration and anxiety.
And it’s ESSENTIAL to go through the three steps. If you do not, then those emotions will linger beneath the surface and make it difficult for you to take action.
And you MUST take action. It’s when you take ACTION that you fix and heal things so you can move on.
The hardest part about taking action is that the challenges in front of you can seem so huge and imposing. The sheer size can paralyze you.
For example, a person who’s tens of thousands of dollars in debt might be depressed because they have absolutely no idea how they are going to get out of it.
A massive debt load, or whatever paralyzing fear you’re dealing with, can feel so intimidating, you just freeze. You take no action at all, which will only make your depression worse.
What you need to do is make the task before you a little less imposing. That’s why step four is to use the “divide and conquer” strategy.
This is how empires are built. The Roman Empire and the British Empire did not come into being after fighting one big war against all their enemies. That would have been a disastrous strategy (just ask the Germans!).
Instead, these enormous empires were built by focusing all of their resources on one small enemy at a time. They’d knock down one. Then another. Then another… until all of their enemies were defeated and absorbed.
You need to employ a similar strategy with your own life. If you’re majorly in debt, don’t focus on the total amount all at once.
Always break that huge problem down into small manageable chunks.
While you may have no idea how you will pay off ALL of your debt, you can probably come up with ways to pay down a portion of it. After you pay down that small chunk, you can focus on the next chunk.
While you are dealing with each of these chunks, you should be focusing on that, rather than the total amount you owe.
You should just understand that the BIG problem will take care of itself as you eat away at the pieces.
With the help of step number four, you can now deal with the paralysis that overwhelming challenges create. Finally you can set yourself up to take real action and build up some momentum. That’s exactly what step number five – the final aspect – is all about. Watch for it in a few days!